The Preacher’s Chicken

Today is the day of my grandmother’s funeral, and I woke up thinking about fried chicken and preachers. My grandparents raised chickens for many, many years. They had a small shed on the hillside above the house called the brooder house. During the frigid winters, they would load up the wood stove with a warm fire and Granny would tell how the chickens and young chicks would line up around the heat of the stove. She marveled at how they would stick together in neat little rows. The eggs would be gathered every day, and once a week, Grandpa would load up a huge stack of egg crates and take them to Town (always a capital T in my mind as she told her stories) to sell.

As you gathered eggs, there may be one chicken who didn’t like being ousted from her spot as you checked for hidden eggs and she’d retaliate with a little nip. That one, Granny explained, would be the preacher’s chicken. Each Sunday, the preacher would visit one of the families of the church for dinner after church service. I’m sure that the women in the community would lay out their finest during these visits. I’ve heard of revenge being a dish best served cold, but as I think about her story, I think for Granny, it must have been a dish served fried in Crisco and served to the preacher.

Because of Covid, the service today will be a gathering of cars to follow the hearse up a rocky rutted road, and a short graveside service as we all sniffle through our masks and shiver in six inches of snow as another storm comes blowing in to knock us off the mountain ridge. My cousin said Granny had often told her that she’d be sitting on her little pink cloud, laughing at all of us. I wonder if we’ll look like little chicks to her, gathered in a circle around our center of warmth? We will celebrate her life, sharing the thousands of stories of her and by her. And I, for one, plan to remember her tomorrow on Sunday, by fixing fried chicken.  

The Green Blanket

When you were born, at least a dozen of the family members gave us exquisite baby blankets.  Hand stitched, quilted or crocheted, they were soft, beautiful, and a complete pain in my behind.  For every visit, as family showed up to look at your stormy blue eyes, I had to remember who gave us which blanket to be sure to have it on hand to show that we were grateful for their thoughtfulness. I had learned this quickly after the first few questions about missing blankets, or comments on how much time so-and-so had put into their blanket, or sad observations on stains that appear as they do with every baby. Everyone wants to feel special and appreciated, so I did my best to keep it mind, despite being an exhausted new mother.

Luckily, you and I were able to spend most of our time alone.  During those precious moments, I would carefully fold all the special blankets and put them away to keep them pristine. In their stead, I bought a five dollar blanket at Walmart.  It was green, soft, and I didn’t have to care about it.  If we sat outside in the grass, I would throw out the green blanket. No worries if it got grass-stained.  If we played on the floor with the dogs or the cats, I would spread out the green blanket.  It was easy enough to throw into the washer. As the air got cooler and we traveled to and from the babysitter, I could throw the entire green blanket over your car seat as we walked through the yard, unlike all of those teeny tiny baby blankets that would cover only half of you, or slip off as we scrambled to keep them clean.

As babies do, you grew, and grew.  The special blankets stayed packed away, while you kept the green blanket tossed over your shoulder, a constant source of comfort to you as you crawled then walked.  If you watched TV, the blanket curled around you and a cat. If you played in the floor, the green blanket was your cushion. When we traveled, you would wrap it around your arms as you leaned back in your car seat. Everyone became used to seeing you with your green blanket. Everyone assumed that green was your favorite color, when in reality it was mine.

 Instead of a description, the blanket earned the name, The Green Blanket.  Going out the door meant checking that you had The Green Blanket before we left.  Bedtime meant making sure that you had The Green Blanket in bed with you.  This went on for years.

This week, I was helping you to tidy up.  Blankets are still the favorite gift of family members, so they tend to pile up.  They are big and small, soft and slick.  I see images of Elsa and Anna, of Minions, of solar systems, and rainbows.  We folded them up and packed some of them away.  It had been a while since I had seen The Green Blanket, and I had half forgotten about it.  I flipped over a pillow, and there it lay, neatly folded as a cushion in the corner of your bed.

Casually, I asked if you wanted me to pack it away, since it was worn and not as soft as some of the new blankets. No, leave it there, you said. You looked at me, gave your little knowing grin, and patted me on the arm. I laughed at you, a little girl who knew exactly how to make her mother feel unique. I smoothed out the wrinkles in the fold of The Green Blanket, then covered it up with a pillow. A little bit of ordinary, but hidden and special for just the two of us.

Hindsight is 2020

I had looked forward to the concept of the year 2020. I thought then it symbolized a perfect year for clear 20-20 vision. What exactly I expected to see now seems to escape me. Perhaps a chance to see new things, because we had trips planned. Perhaps a chance to focus my efforts on a variety of personal projects. Another year to watch my daughters grow and learn in their chosen activities?

And yet, the year 2020 arrived and swept all of that aside.

Instead of beginning the year with clarity, we felt confused, worried, and a sense of unreality sunk in. People were dying all over the world, and the virus seemed to creep closer and closer to us. We felt great love and concern for people and yet wanted no one to get within arm’s reach. Our leaders sniped at each other with comments we would not allow on a kindergarten playground. I actively worried about children in homes with not enough food or in homes of abuse and had dreams of how I could rescue them. No, the world was a blurry place, and I felt more and more like I was in the eye doctor’s chair taking my eye exam and knowing with gut-wrenching anxiety that it was a test I could never pass.

We began to make decisions. We delayed plans for trips. We withdrew into our homes and made alliances with those of similar mindsets. We chose to mask or not to mask. To visit a loved one, or just to call. Conferences were canceled, as were family reunions. Family members would go into hospitals for procedures and forced to wait in the parking lot, we waited for news when every fiber of our being said we should be inside at their bedside, ready to quiz the hospital staff for details.

It is the last day of 2020. In years past, I would spend this last day of the year thinking forward about New Year’s resolutions and setting challenges for myself. Yesterday, a radio DJ announced that they would play the ‘best songs from the worst year’. Instinctively, I wrinkled my nose at the word, best. What was best about anything in 2020? Grudgingly, I gave it some thought. This forced me to stop and think and apply the magnifying glass not only to the horrors of the world but also to the treasures.

Family and friends have always been important to me. But would I have talked to so many of them by phone if I hadn’t felt the need to reach out and check on them? To send notes and little treasure in the mail to those I miss? I know for certain with all of the running around to basketball and piano classes and book groups and writers groups and community events that I would not have spent as much time at board games, reading books together, and just sitting at leisure at the dinner table and talking, sharing stories, and making plans for “after” with my husband and daughters.  

I would have assumed the girls were learning everything that they were supposed to in school, rather than working with them one on one, rebuilding on areas of weakness, and being in complete awe of their abilities and creativity.

I would not have spent the time on myself. Taking the long hikes over the mountains, both for the exercise, and wiping away the cobwebs of spending day after day in the same house with the same faces and then feeling the joy of Mother Nature as a breeze picks up and spatters my face with a light rain.

I would have allowed myself more days just to pick something up to eat on the go, rather than to pick new recipes out of the book and give it a try in the kitchen, loving that my husband will eat it, whether it turned out right or not. I would not have spent so much time with the written word, instead of feeling guilty for stealing another minute from family time.

Make no mistake, I am happy to see the backside of this year, these problems, and for certain this virus. But I also cannot leave this entire year behind.  Perhaps my resolution is to take this new vision of the world, and like eye drops, apply it as needed when we get back to “normal.” 

My Daughter, The Writer


On our way home one evening, I asked my eight year old daughter if she planned on participating in a local writing contest. She had not heard about it, so I explained that she could write a poem or a short story. Thoughtfully, she said, “A poem, like Dr. Seuss? Red fish, blue fish?” I agreed that yes, Dr. Seuss wrote poetry. Then she asked a very important question. “What makes something a story?”

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Bibliomania and Time to Read


Not enough time to read. I’ve complained about this since I first learned to read. Lots of people have the same complaint, throughout history. And still, I receive those daily newsletters in my email inbox, with lists, absolutely lists of new books coming out. Amazon gives me those sneak peek of the first few pages and almost nine times out of ten, I’m hooked. I want to read it now, must read it now!

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The Fence


I can make my dad angry at any time, just by bringing up “the fence”.  We moved to this mountain when I was around two years old. And I must have driven my mother crazy by wandering off into the woods that surrounded us on all four sides, except for my Grandmother’s house a quarter mile away. My dad says that they couldn’t really afford the fence, but decided to build one around the yard anyway. In their usual fashion, Mom

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The Art Form of Obituaries



A friend and work colleague of my dad recently passed away after a long battle of cancer.  He was a name I heard often while growing up as my dad would come home and regale us with something that the man had said or did.  So, even though I had not seen or heard about the man in many, many years, I read through his obituary with a certain measure of nostalgia and sadness for his family. Then, one line of the obituary jumped out at me: “Several great nieces and nephews along with farm dog and companion Otis also survive.”

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